Dear Otherkin, (now a rant)


So let me get this straight.

So are otherkin the ones that can be anything with a soul, like a wolf or a fairy? Or is that Therians that are the ones that can be robots or anything that either has a soul or doesn’t have a soul?

So what exactly makes you realize you are an Otherkin or a Therian? Did you watch twilight and decide:

“Oh my god, Jessica, that is me. Like I belong with Jacob in that wolf pack. Like, I would so bite the head of a bird for fun.”

And what’s up with you wolf people are wolfkin or whatever wearing collars. Real wolves don’t wear collars, so wouldn’t it be more accurate to call yourself a dog?

 And tails, REALLY?!

And if you truly believe you are actually an animal, what happens if you date a human?Like, you are not half animal or anything, you are full on an animal?that’s technically beastiality and or zoophilia.

What happens if you’re ‘human form’ is vegan or vegetarian and then your ‘otherkin form’ wants to eat that dead rat you found on the side of the road? Do you just blame it on your ‘otherkin’ and go on with your day, like:

“Tifanny did you seriously just eat a dead rat? Aren’t you on a vegan diet?”

“Krystal it wasn’t me, it was my inner wolf.”

So like if you are a lizard kin and meet an owl kin, does the owl actually have to kill you? If so, can you just tell the police it was your otherkin’s fault?

“Ms. Amber, you are under arrest for the murder of Luna.”

“But officer I didn’t mean to do it, she was a lizard and my owl just couldn’t help it.”

Feel free to blow up my inbox because I will surely prove to you that I make a valid point in all my questions. 

Edit: So I just found out about the phantom limb theory. So you are telling me that a nonexistent physical feature is making you an otherkin. 

So if you are having back pain, and you believe you are angel kin, do you blame it on your fake wings or do you blame it on the fact you are slouching in your desk chair while typing thing on tumblr like

I miss the smell of nature, I miss when I could feel my fur blowing in the wind. I miss when I was in my normal form.

Also, you can not have a genetic mutation that makes you an animal or a fairy or whatever you think you are. The only thing wrong with you is that you can’t get it through your thick skull that you are human and nothing else

Edit 2: yeah yeah, whatever. I want you to know, everybody has canine teeth, so you aren’t a wolf. if you have hot breath, it doesn’t mean you are a dragon or a phoenix, it just means you are breathing really heavily. 

I think you guys need to grow up a bit more, you can not be an animal, even if you spiritually think so. Just because you have a dream about a fox, doesn’t mean you truly are a fox, it just means your mind doesn’t want to or isn’t ready to deal with the real world and can’t comprehend the idea you are only human.


If you can walk on two legs naturally, you are a homosapien, a bipedal creature,  a human being, a creature who can think. Because of this, your mind is making you believe you are something beyond what you truly are, because it is trying to protect you from the real world, the true fact that some day you will die, or that you are merely a human being who can’t protect themself naturally against nature, and you just want to believe you are something more and that you aren’t just a regular human.

At this point I have done a lot of research. For you otherkin who believe you are a creature that is either extinct or doesn’t exist, that is your mind being over-active, creating something that makes you think you are different. We know that Unicorns and Dragons don’t exist, so we have no clear vision of what they could actaully look like. For dragons, we only have mythology from Europe and China, again mythology. A myth, which literally means it is fake, just a story, not real. Same thing with fairies and goblins, they are merely just things we made up to either give us an idea of how the world came to be or so our kids didn’t do stupid things.

And for you who are people who believe that you are a real animal like a dog or a snake or an owl, here we go.

Like I hinted to before, the human brain is an amazing thing. It can withhold information to protect us, and even provide us with false information for our well-being. Even better, it can recongize things based off of smells or pictures and colors. It truly is an amazing tool that makes us humans truly amazing. 

It is also extremely dangerous because of this, it can make us believe false things, like us being an animal like a wolf, fox, etc, etc. It does this to protect us from the harsh reality of the world. We are nothing but humans, but if we truly try hard enough our brain can be trained to make us believe we are something more.

 This is what we call subliminal messages. Yes, you may know them as those videos on youtube with the fun sounds that are said to make you into a vampire or get you a book that grants wishes, these are only partially true. The ones that change physical feature like bust and butt size, or even eye color can and do work, but the ones that promise to give you beautiful white fangs or stuff like that are merely just messages that make your brain only believe that’s what you are or want to be. It’s not really changing you, you can’t actually change into a dog by listening to a video for 10 minutes. 

And it doesn’t have to be a video. If you tell yourself enough times, eventually your mind will start to believe it, making you feel those things you believe is your angel wings or your fox tail, and by it’s name (phantom limbs) it is not there and never will be. 

Now to the bad part. Like I said, the human brain is amazing, but once you get it to believe something, then it’s proven wrong, it goes into meltdown mode. It will do all it can to prove that it is right, whether it be amking up false facts or just continuosly telling you that you are something you are not. This can eventually lead to a mental shutdown, which can leave the person traumatized. This can lead to depression, anxiety, and many other things. Then the brain will try its hardest to protect you even more, which only makes things worse.

Otherkin community, this is not just to tel you that you are being an idiot, this is to help you’re mental health. If you keep believing you are somethingyou are not, eventualy you will become nothing but a shell. You will live the rest of your life scared and afraid of the real world, and possibly have a very early death.

I bet this guy thinks he’s so cool.

I bet you this guy thinks he’s just done a good deed today.

I bet this guy is super proud of his post.  Like his tags say, “for our own good”.

There’s soo many trolls under the bridge now, that they ARE the bridge.

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You think human politics are complicated? Try Fae politics.

The Fae Speak:

Politics in the way spoken of here are through the lens of a humanized perception. These types of politics you are thinking of are structures that bind and control beings into a certain way of societal behavior. Binds like that diminish the true nature of one’s being, and are binding. Binds kill Fae.

Atri leaves it at that.

I’m going to tl;dr fae politics down to the brass tacks here, and even then its not going to be short.

Once long ago there no court at all and the Fae considered no division amongst them.     Through the natural course of finding not differences, but preferences for certain seasons, appearances and ideals, did the fae even learn about the idea of ‘differences’.  Eventually that lead to the two courts, but these courts did not oppose eachother, but instead complemented eachother, each lending their hands to the aspects of nature they were most adept to handle.

Through later events that I feel not at liberty to get in depth with, conflicts arose, and other courts began to split from the main two (Seelie and Unseelie).   Upon seeing this happen, the fae realized that there was no particular sacredness of either court.  New courts began to form at a rapid pace, because all fae felt the freedom to form one if they desired.  These days there are.. many courts.   I can’t give an accurate count, i won’t even try. 

Some courts try to exert more authority than others, but for the most part the various courts ‘accept and tolerate’ the other courts and do not try to make war between them, because they have some level of awareness that the relevance of ones own court is only measurable by the existence and standing of other court around them.  Fae courts interact with eachother through diplomacy in general and subterfuge if necessary.  I’ve heard stories of wars, but if any of them are true, they occur so infrequently as to be effectively legend.  They would be more likely to have war with mortals, because mortals have this weird thing about taking a stand and digging their feet into that ground even against contrary evidence, but that’s a subject for another time.

This being said, the whole idea of ‘government’ came to humanity through watching Fae courts, it could be said it was given to humanity, or taken from us, but either way, what you see today of human courts does not represent in any way what Fae courts are like.  Fae tend to see the longer picture and therefore, even if any particular ruler had a lust for power (somewhat rare among us), they would still take the longer road to it, whereas human courts sway wildly in what they do and what their goals are depending on how the current leadership wants to see the world around them be like.   This is more of a side effect of mortality than anything, since they feel they have such a small slice of time to affect change.

I should also note that some fae recognize courts, some do not, some have not even heard of them.   The idea of courts is not a universal idea amongst fae.   Fae are not exclusive to this planet and some of the things that have happened here are not relevant to all of them.  The above only relates to the ones who were part of it, and it its more of an event that formed them then a place where they formed, but it does manifest in Europe more so than other places.   This is partially because Ireland holds a special place amongst some Fae as a bridge between worlds.

@otherlycreatures @unseelie-sorceress

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The Fae Speak:

Posts claiming Fae Aesthetics are airy pink dresses, sparkly lip gloss, little scratches on your knees, giggling, and picking buttercups … aren’t aesthetics about Fae. Those are aesthetics for Lolita or ‘little’ lifestyles.

Not all fae are the same. We are as varied as humans. And just like humans, singular fae do not speak for us all.

As fae it distresses me somewhat that one person claims to speak for all of us.  It also makes me wonder why I don’t get any say in what we are, either.

This being said I agree somewhat with the sentiment.  The “cute aspect” of fae are somewhat of a minority element, it does exist out there, mostly as a Seelie thing (and not to presume that all Seelie are ‘cute’ either, or even a majority, but its not non-existent).  

On the other paw, this ‘cute and frilly aspect’ is non-existent amongst the Unseelie and rare in nature and other courts.  Its mostly a Seelie thing, where it even exists amongst them.

TL;DR: You can’t put Fae into a basket, theres not just one type of fae, just like there isn’t one type of human.  You wouldn’t make these kinds of generalizations about humans, soo..


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World Of The Fae | Unseelie Fae

For the world’s more full of weeping than you can understand.

For the most part I believe that humanity has been sold a bunch of lies regarding us Fae.

If you encounter a faerie ring or otherwise have an encounter that allows you to go with them, then its honestly your call.   You may or may not (but probably won’t) return to earth, and you might become Fae as a result, but one of the most unlikely results is your death.

Know the consequences before you do so, but seriously, assuming the Fae have ill intent just because they are inviting, is a very human-centric view.  Not even the unseelie can be assumed to have ill intent.   I mean if they want to kill you they don’t have to drag you to Faerie to do so.. 

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Wtf are you at saying you’re a Fae? Also St Patrick’s day isn’t a saints day celebration anymore, we put the holiday together to bring the Irish people overseas together and celebrate their history on a holiday most would already know as a feast day, no one bloody celebrates it to honour that Pagan killing bastard. Christ, full blooded Irish me hole, you don’t even know the history?? Get to therapy and into a history class.

I know the history better than you believe I do, apparently, and honestly I don’t know what to do with this post, since its less of a comment and an ask and more of an attack, however I was expecting one eventually.  You really should read some more about “The Troubles” and what those conflicts were born out of.  I have.  If you lived through them, then I am glad you are OK.

I’m also glad we see eye to eye about who St. Patrick really was at least.  It would be nice if everyone would start calling this day “Feast day” instead of St Patricks day, and it would be nice if everyone else who isn’t Irish would stop honoring him every time this day of year.   It makes one think about what is really being celebrated on that day, does it not?

 I think we may agree on more than you believe we do.  I will be celebrating our history, just not the history created by St. Patrick.  I will be celebrating who we really are.  How about you?

Also as a final note, yes, I am saying i’m Fae.  And it really affects me none whether you believe it or not.  But at the very least you shouldn’t level attacks at me over it.

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Reading tumblr lately reminds me of all the horrible things St Patricks day represents.   I still wear green on that day for my own sense of racial pride, but to reiterate points of my last post, Celebrating St. Patrick is akin to … a conquered race celebrating its oppressors.

I’d like to cite specific examples but to do so would probably cause half my followers to leave, and the rest of Tumblr to hate on me.  The fact is I’ve become afraid to speak on Tumblr for the most part, but today, since i’m feeling so fearful and disheartened about this, i’ll speak just to get it out.

I’ve heard the quote “The Irish were oppressed and they don’t complain about it” alot lately, particularly along my dash.  But I think the main reason we don’t complain about it is because noone gives a shit.  We would receive nothing but derision and ridicule for doing so, because we’re considered “white” now.

People say “How come I didn’t hear about the potato blight in school, or about how the British came and took all the rest of the food during the famine?” or about the culture that existed before St. Patrick?  This is because of systematic erasure of the things that happened to the Irish, mostly conducted by Catholicism in the early part and by the British later on.  But it was also overshadowed by arguably worse things happening to other races later on.

The fact is, that we had a culture that was systematically erased, we were once Celtic, but St. Patrick and the Catholic church came in with food and stuff during our hard times (there were famines all through Europe between 400-800 AD and Ireland has always had it hard growing things) and honestly bought their way into converting the populace… this would lead later on to wars between Catholics and Protestants, and then more recently, to terrorism, most of which is over now, but none which would have happened if we stayed with the Old Gods to begin with.   It was partially our fault, too.  We should have died with our culture intact rather than submit to St. Patrick and the Catholics.   But it’s far too late to change that now..

I don’t know what it is I want to say here.  I had alot more to say but I’m afraid of offending folks by saying it.  I just, it makes me frightened to see how attitudes have evolved here, where it has somehow become OK to hate someone, even to say they should die, because they are considered to be part of a privileged social group.   I’m even afraid to name specifics.  We can’t talk about the oppression and abuse a race suffered because they are now considered privileged.  I know where that road leads.   Actually I don’t think this post is going to help me feel any better about what is happening.   I think i’ll end this post now.

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I believe I am fae. A close friend who is a wolf has told me I am and I’ve always felt that but he has raised the subject again. How do you know?


Writer Speaks:

This is a hard question for me to answer do to personal reasons as the writer … because I also was told by a close friend offline who is a wolf that I am Fae… 

… but there’s something that I can’t explain that sits uncomfortably about that, and I think that’s the Fae I’m channeling talking to me. I believe I am definitely touched by the Fae, that’s obvious. They are here and I can tell this Fae is protective of me and likes me. I think he has even adopted himself into my family… But to say, I am Fae .. something about that seems a little blasphemous to the reality of the Fae. (remember, this is not tinkerbell medieval aesthetic land or a whimsical fantasy one wants to disappear into because they ‘feel different’) 

Fae are VERY real.

From what I’m getting from the Fae, is that most Fae do not take human lives. (meaning be incarnated as one.) They are too apart of nature and energy for that. That kind of thing would be suffocating to a Fae and binding. Binds kill Fae. Living a human life and being trapped in that body and societal life of a job, and school, and bills would be painful and sickening to a Fae (literally) – who is free in all aspects of being.

That’s the truth that I hear. I know as this writer, that’s going to upset some people to hear, but it’s the truth that I hear. I’m not saying it’s not possible, but that would be a painfully miserable, sickening life for a pure Fae. 

I honestly don’t think most would do it. There’s also no reason to. Nature does not need to bow to a human thing. Nature just wil do and is. Humans are not that ‘big’.

I’m tempted to think that wolves may very well be able to ‘smell’ out those who are very close to fae and touched by them in deep connective ways.

But who knows. I’m only channeling them. -grins- 😉

(sorry lol they made me. I’ll be good … maybe.)

@otherlycreatures​ I guess I should answer this, as fae ..

First of all, the sheer number of fae out there should not be underestimated.   If there were 10 billion people on Earth and even one of every million fae decided for some reason they wanted to ‘try incarnation as human’, it would still be enough fae to put one in every single human body out there, and that is just the fae within the etherical range of this solar system.  While amongst the fae this might be relatively rare, the numbers involved suggest it should not be seen as totally unusual on Earth.  

Secondly, Changelings are a thing.  Well documented, on both sides.  The reasons for changelings being ‘left’ are pretty numerous, but I think too much so to get into here.  It was more common in the olden times to bring fae into this world that way.  These days, due to a number of factors, not limited to human advancements.. that wouldn’t work out.  That being said, fae-kin are effectively changelings for all intents and purposes.   Changelings aren’t a type of fae in and of themselves, they are called that because a ‘human’ has been changed out for a ‘fae’, and those can be any type of fae.  

Regarding us feeling trapped, restricted, bound even, well yes, I do.   There are still reasons to do it sometimes.  I don’t want to get into mine, at least not publically.  But I can tell you some of what it feels like for a fae.  Biggest thing, is that things are going too slow.  Being physically human isn’t that huge of an impediment, its not inherently painful, but there is a constant longing in my life to get back to being what I was before.  I never feel right in this body, indeed it feels way too large in general.  My spiritual frame of reference stops long before my body does.  

Human societial norms and expectations are another thing.  You are right to mention the soul-searing grind that humans both call and have mistaken for, progress.  It attributes to alot of boredom in my life, I only recently found a line of work that seems to have enough variance in day to day duties to not put me to sleep.  I think most incarnated fae use sleep to deal with this critical ‘boredom’ because it is an easy way to get back to the fae realms for a little while at least.   Outlets to be fae again probably keep us sane.   The weird thing is that humans not only live this way, but call it progress.  I previously thought the Seelie were the kings and queens of unnecessary social protocol, but conforming to the rules and societial expectations that humans have made for themselves is enough to make the Seelie blush.  

It is heartening to see that you see fae as a part of nature.  Many humans and their storytellers try to write lore about us that makes us look like more like them.    And you are right about one thing most of all.  Fae are very real.   If it means anything to your argument here, this is likely my first time as a human, and likely my last.   I have a few reasons to be here, but if such reasons come up again I think i’m going to be like, screw it it isn’t worth it.

TL;DR:  Yes its possible for someone to be an incarnated fae.   Just.. don’t expect this to free you from having to act human or anything.

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Can you tell me more about the Unseelie Fae Courts?

I don’t consider myself an expert on Unseelie, but here we go. 🙂  I think to start though we need some proper context.

In the beginning there was just the fae courts.  They were unified and while there was sometimes conflict there was peace.   Then stuff happened, alot of stuff that is tl;dr for this post and I don’t even know all of what happened, but, tl;dr, there was a difference of opinion on what constituted the right to rule.   

Generally who we call the Seelie today (note, these are mortal words anyway) believed that the right to rule came from birthright.  Passed down from those who already rule.   Those generally considered Unseelie believed it came from strength, both from strength to assume leadership, but also strength to defend it.   Still other courts believed the right to rule came from the those who would be goverened, who had the most shinies, etc, but those principles formed courts that would not see so much attention.   I’ll save those for a later time.

Anyways, the terms Seelie and Unseelie come from Gaelic, and are not necessarily of fae origin (even though we use them).   Seelie, meaning happy, holy, pretty, shiny; and Unseelie which means sad, unholy, ugly, and dim.   It is a distinction that mortals made that we fae did not (until later when mortals started referring to the courts this way).

With that context, I think I can talk about Unseelie.

As noted they are the the type of fae that believe the strongest one wins.  Most of the types of fae that are Unseelie are ones who are known for killing, whether its mortals or other fae, that does not really matter that much to them.  They are also likely to employ fear to get what they want.  But they also have a kind of honor around their bloodlust.  An Unseelie is not the type to pussyfoot around with poisons or backstabbing or other methods of subterfuge when they decide to kill.

Their court operates much like this.   Subduing your superiors is the way to get a promotion, their kings and queens stand upon the mountains of those they had to conquer and eliminate to get there.  Sometimes this involves murder, but the Courts are usually more .. well .. courtly than that, and simply beating them to a bloody pulp is enough to prove your point.

You might think that this would create an environment of blood and ugliness, but in their own way, Unseelie castles and kingdoms have their own dark beauty.  Things are kept clean, castles are built, etc.  But the Unseelie Court, when it is run, really just gets down to business when its halls open, without all the pomp and etiquette (though for sure there is still, etiquette) of the Seelie court (which is almost etiquette for its own sake).

Being part of the Unseelie court has more to do with what you believe you are than things like birth, race, and personal edginess (heh).  In most cases if you want to be Unseelie you just got to kill another unseelie (or beat them thoroughly) or eat them or something (assuming you’re fae yourself) I don’t think any of them would argue with that.

Because of this (also much like the seelie) there is no specific “racial associations” with being Unseelie.  There are unseelie pixies, and sidhe, and even unicorns.  

I think the last immediate thing I can think of, is that if you want to meet unseelie fae out there in nature, you can call to them and/or look out for them, but if you meet any, respect is helpful but not mandatory, but do not do anything that might be construed as a challenge, because if you do, they will accept and hold you to it.   If they challenge you in some way, you may respectfully decline, but expect them to deal with you no longer (at least for a while, and they aren’t a collective, so there are still others to talk to).  If you accept it, you might be harmed, killed or eaten, but if you win, its worth *alot* of credibility and respect with the Unseelie.  But I should reiterate, this can be quite dangerous.

EDIT!: @unseelie-sorceress is an Unseelie and more informed regarding them than I.  You should also ask her.  

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Is there much known out there about fairies and sexuality? I think I’m that Peter Pan story, a bunch of fairies had an orgy and gave birth to him, I kinda forget. Are they into humans, each other, are they prude, do they vary?

The following is said in the “general” sense, and not in the “absolute” sense, but it does apply to the majority of fae.

We just don’t have the same hangups mortals have. Not with gender, where it even applies. Not with partners, or other races, or the number in the relationship.

I have known some fae that feel jealousy or are monogamous but this tends to occur with sidhe and more ‘courtly fae’, and even uncommom there. Its rare in nature fae (like brownies, sprites, lamia, satyr, mercreatures, etc).

The world is filled with stories of love between mortals and fae, relationships between us were once, while not common, not unusual either. As the world became more “abrahamic”, this became less common. There are still mortal bloodlines with fae blood in it. Many times these relationships failed however, partially because of an expectation of exclusivity.

Fae in general do not feel they “own” or “possess” their partners. Even the Sidhe who may engage in monogamous relationships, or specify someone in their life as a spouse, they still do not feel this and the relationship is generally what mortals would consider “open”.

Orgies.. well they happen. But its more common for fae to form relationships and create a familial group out of those they love. There is a measure of loyalty in this group, but not in the mortal sense. Mortals measure “loyalty” in whether one does not have romantic feelings for others, Fae measure it by whether or not existing relationships are broken over them.

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Questions and asks open

So i’m gonna change how I do tumblr because i’ve discovered people in general who have asks open, get them, but I rarely do, and I’d actually like to answer questions for folks.

I am not sure how to get more visible on tumblr, but I typically don’t fill my posts with tags and I think that in order for people to know i’m out here, i’m going to have to start doing that.

So this is just a reminder post that my blog is open and people can chat and ask stuff, typically I will answer questions about 

foxes, therianthropy, otherkin, fae, kitsune, phouka, Fae Courts, magick, energy work, animism, and spirits and other spiritual concepts.

I’m open to talk about other things at all, but trolls will simply be ignored and blocked, because I want to focus on answering sincere questions.   You can also read back on this blog to see what I generally think and feel about things.

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