faefox.org – Page 31

Aug

2017

Is there much known out there about fairies and sexuality? I think I’m that Peter Pan story, a bunch of fairies had an orgy and gave birth to him, I kinda forget. Are they into humans, each other, are they prude, do they vary?

The following is said in the “general” sense, and not in the “absolute” sense, but it does apply to the majority of fae.

We just don’t have the same hangups mortals have. Not with gender, where it even applies. Not with partners, or other races, or the number in the relationship.

I have known some fae that feel jealousy or are monogamous but this tends to occur with sidhe and more ‘courtly fae’, and even uncommom there. Its rare in nature fae (like brownies, sprites, lamia, satyr, mercreatures, etc).

The world is filled with stories of love between mortals and fae, relationships between us were once, while not common, not unusual either. As the world became more “abrahamic”, this became less common. There are still mortal bloodlines with fae blood in it. Many times these relationships failed however, partially because of an expectation of exclusivity.

Fae in general do not feel they “own” or “possess” their partners. Even the Sidhe who may engage in monogamous relationships, or specify someone in their life as a spouse, they still do not feel this and the relationship is generally what mortals would consider “open”.

Orgies.. well they happen. But its more common for fae to form relationships and create a familial group out of those they love. There is a measure of loyalty in this group, but not in the mortal sense. Mortals measure “loyalty” in whether one does not have romantic feelings for others, Fae measure it by whether or not existing relationships are broken over them.

Aug

2017

Can you explain to me how does being divineki work? Like, beings from different mythology

To me, the answer to that is not as simple. I believe those claiming to be divine-kin have a high burden of responsibility to provide an explanation as to why they believe it, one above and beyond just saying this is what they believe.

I don’t expect for people making these claims to prove it with power but they should at the very least be able to show me that they have knowledge above and beyond the average mortal, especially in matters of spirituality and the nature of reality and the multiverse.

As for different mythologies, please do understand that this world already names 2500 different divinities across all cultures (there is a book out there with a big list tho I forget its name) and this is discluding demigods or divine servants of aforementioned deities. No one belief system has a “right answer”, or holds a monopoly in divine grace. To simplify, all of these divinities are valid, if people believe in that divinity.

I myself do not claim to be divine-kin, primarily because I believe divinity to be self-evident. I believe (with some rare exceptions) that if a divinity has to tell others they are, then they have discredited themselves significantly in the act. If one is divine it will be revealed in what they do.

It is kind of disappointing to me that it seems these days those who would call themselves divine, go forth with all their titles first like they are Daenarys Targaryen, and lack works to back it up. After that, the various mythologies aren’t much of a factor. By the perspective of the divine, most of the cultural struggles that mortals have here, are largely irrelevant. All of you mortals are returning to spirit in the end. Your experience in the afterlife is only partially influenced by what you do now. You can go to Heaven, but that’s not the only place you can go. You will be able to see the multiverse as it is.

You will also find that the divine that hold so much regard of the people today also came from less divine roots, and what they DID got them to where they are now. And not all of those things were good, but they got there.

Please let me know if this answers your question.

Aug

2017

Questions and asks open

So i’m gonna change how I do tumblr because i’ve discovered people in general who have asks open, get them, but I rarely do, and I’d actually like to answer questions for folks.

I am not sure how to get more visible on tumblr, but I typically don’t fill my posts with tags and I think that in order for people to know i’m out here, i’m going to have to start doing that.

So this is just a reminder post that my blog is open and people can chat and ask stuff, typically I will answer questions about

foxes, therianthropy, otherkin, fae, kitsune, phouka, Fae Courts, magick, energy work, animism, and spirits and other spiritual concepts.

I’m open to talk about other things at all, but trolls will simply be ignored and blocked, because I want to focus on answering sincere questions. You can also read back on this blog to see what I generally think and feel about things.

Aug

2017

The Astral is an MMO

thedragonslibrary:

Or at least, it’s a lot like an MMO.

Some people can’t even figure out how to log on, let alone afford to pay the subscription. Sometimes their computers are too old or their graphics card isn’t right, which makes the image blurry and the animation choppy and it crashes every couple of minutes.

Most people start out at level one, and they have to grind through the really boring story stuff. Lots of times these people are confused and misled, but also amazed by the open world, and they run around a lot without getting anything done. Many of those people will level up for a while without ever making any friends or joining any guilds, which is a totally perfect and valid way to play.

Some people have one of those instant level 99 tokens, and they level up instantly, and are kind of overwhelmed by how difficult the game was right off the bat. Sometimes those people decide it’s in their best interest to quit now before they stress themselves out, and that’s okay.

Some people get in the game and they already have friends who are in pretty high-ranking guilds, so they’re pulled into giant awesome boss fights. And man, are the boss fights awesome. They play their role naturally and have a really great and fun time doing it. Everyone in the guild really feels how fun and exciting it is, and the people watching them stream the game are also pretty excited, even if they’re a bit removed from the situation.

And the next day, when they’re talking to their IRL friends and they say, “Oh man, killing Archimonde last night was so cool,” their guild friends will totally relate, and agree with them! But their IRL friends, who have never touched an MMO, will just kind of say, “Yeah, that sounds pretty cool,” even though they can’t relate at all. They feel a little left out and almost like they’re expected to play the MMO, even though they can’t really commit the time to learn how to play.

And meanwhile, there are thousands of other players who have beaten the same bosses, played the same games, earned the same trinkets, and had guilds of their own. Some people have explored most of the game without ever beating a boss. Some people spend their time on the market earning gold. Some people play on a trackpad on their laptop and some people own a Razor Naga mouse. And some people never even pick up the game at all.

And all of this is totally and completely valid.

Just because you’re not beating the biggest baddest boss in the game once a week, doesn’t mean your astral travel is less cool or less valid. Do what makes you feel good, and what your abilities allow for, and don’t feel like you have to meet any extra expectations to have a good time.

Reblogged due to reason: Accurate analogy.

Aug

2017

The Astral is an MMO

thedragonslibrary:

Or at least, it’s a lot like an MMO.

Some people can’t even figure out how to log on, let alone afford to pay the subscription. Sometimes their computers are too old or their graphics card isn’t right, which makes the image blurry and the animation choppy and it crashes every couple of minutes.

Most people start out at level one, and they have to grind through the really boring story stuff. Lots of times these people are confused and misled, but also amazed by the open world, and they run around a lot without getting anything done. Many of those people will level up for a while without ever making any friends or joining any guilds, which is a totally perfect and valid way to play.

Some people have one of those instant level 99 tokens, and they level up instantly, and are kind of overwhelmed by how difficult the game was right off the bat. Sometimes those people decide it’s in their best interest to quit now before they stress themselves out, and that’s okay.

Some people get in the game and they already have friends who are in pretty high-ranking guilds, so they’re pulled into giant awesome boss fights. And man, are the boss fights awesome. They play their role naturally and have a really great and fun time doing it. Everyone in the guild really feels how fun and exciting it is, and the people watching them stream the game are also pretty excited, even if they’re a bit removed from the situation.

And the next day, when they’re talking to their IRL friends and they say, “Oh man, killing Archimonde last night was so cool,” their guild friends will totally relate, and agree with them! But their IRL friends, who have never touched an MMO, will just kind of say, “Yeah, that sounds pretty cool,” even though they can’t relate at all. They feel a little left out and almost like they’re expected to play the MMO, even though they can’t really commit the time to learn how to play.

And meanwhile, there are thousands of other players who have beaten the same bosses, played the same games, earned the same trinkets, and had guilds of their own. Some people have explored most of the game without ever beating a boss. Some people spend their time on the market earning gold. Some people play on a trackpad on their laptop and some people own a Razor Naga mouse. And some people never even pick up the game at all.

And all of this is totally and completely valid.

Just because you’re not beating the biggest baddest boss in the game once a week, doesn’t mean your astral travel is less cool or less valid. Do what makes you feel good, and what your abilities allow for, and don’t feel like you have to meet any extra expectations to have a good time.

Reblogged due to reason: Accurate analogy.

Aug

2017

Alynna, i understand you’re trying to participate, but you don’t seem to have a clue what you’re talking about. You’re right in that “-phobia” literally means a fear, but you’re ignoring the fact that a lot of oppression is called a “phobia” culturally. Homophobia is a real thing, and that’s what it’s called. It doesn’t mean a “fear” of gay people, it means the oppression of them. Is that something you’re willfully ignoring, or something you’re genuinely too dense to know?

I love how this has already devolved to name calling and denigration of ones intelligence. But you are wrong about this and allow me to explain. There was homophobia BEFORE there was systematic oppression of gay people. Homophobia *led* to the systematic oppression. Homophobia does not *equal* said oppression, as that is saying that the cause is the same as the effect. There must be some other word, truly, that actually means the systematic oppression of LGBT people that resulted from the fear of them.

As it is, if we just start saying that the phobia, the fear, of a certain culture or way of life, is not valid until it becomes actual oppression, then we are saying it is not a problem we need to address with until a culture is oppressed. The fear of a different culture comes way before the oppression of said culture. This is in no way saying that LGBT people have not been oppressed, nor it is it saying that otherkin have been, and I don’t want anything I have written to be twisted and construed to say otherwise.

But the fact is, that before LGBT people were oppressed, they were picked on, discriminated against, insulted, and so forth. And this was before we started applying -phobia in a cultural context, and it only meant fear of things. Because people did not recognize this as an actual fear of said condition and/or culture, we did nothing to overcome it or stop it and that became implicit validation that homophobia was OK which then validated even greater expressions of it, until we made it to actual oppression.

But to be sure, this isn’t unique to LGBT people, many people of different condition, class, cultural background and different gender and orientation have been subject to the phobia of a majority class, and those people are “phobic” of said cultures and classes. Just because it has not made it to the “oppression” of said class does not make it less of a phobia of said class.

Otherkin aren’t oppressed. Its not mine to predict if they will ever be. But they are discriminated against by those who fear their expression of themselves, and historically, discrimination eventually leads to oppression, particularly when people implicitly validate such discrimination, insulting, trolling and general hate of such classes by saying that the people perpetuating such acts are not being “phobic” of said class. That they “deserve it” for “being different” and “not conforming to societial norms”. Is this what you want?

None of this should be twisted and construed as to make it seem like I am saying “homophobia is invalid” and (again) that LGBT aren’t oppressed. However the point is, kinphobia IS valid, because kinphobia is the trolling, the hate, the discrimination, the insults, et. al, of all the different types of kin. All things that shouldn’t be treated as OK, and shouldn’t be treated as anything less than fear of what we feel and believe we are.

Jul

2017

“Kinphobia”

felidaea:

Kinphobia is not real.

As an otherkin, I know that kinphobia is not real.

You can be hated for being otherkin. You can be shunned for being otherkin. You can be harassed for being otherkin. You can be bullied for being otherkin. You can be insulted for being otherkin.

But ! Otherkin ! Are ! Not ! Oppressed !

You can’t get killed for being otherkin. You can’t get massacred for being otherkin. You can’t be denied basic human rights for being otherkin. There have been no terror attacks on otherkin.

Therefore, the hatred and bullying of otherkin should not be called ‘kinphobia’. Kinphobia is not real.

Did definitions change when I was not looking?

The suffix -phobia means “to fear” or “to be afraid of”. It is disconnected from the oppression of what it is suffixing.

Are arachnophobes oppressing spiders? Do hydrophobes oppress water?

I agree whole-heartedly that otherkin are not oppressed. But that does not mean that people who bully, harass, shun, etc, them, are not kinphobic. What do you suppose the motivations are to do these things? For fun, or profit? Or do they simply attack what they do not understand? And is that not the same root reason that people attack LGBT people? Because they fear it because it is different?

I realize that more and more people are misusing the -phobia suffix. It doesn’t mean what they think it means. I mean, do we call ISIS and Al-qadea “Ameriphobic” (among other things)? Yet they kill and oppress.

Or is this all selective redefinition of suffixes established for hundreds of years?

Please everyone, lets not do this.

Jul

2017

lgbtq-support-equality:

speaknovv:

WHERE IS THE LIE

the pain is real

I dont reblog when a post promises me a boon if I do or tells me i’m a bad person if I don’t.

I reblog when it is TRUE.

Jul

2017

The 7 kinds of people with kins

bpdrotten:

Type 1: has literally one kin but it completely defines them

Type 2: has 2-5 kins and a deep and complex canon for all of them

Type 3: gets a new kin every time they watch a new show

Type 4: has so many kins they have to keep them written down somewhere, and will every now and again think “oh yeah i forgot i was kin with X”

Type 5: has been stuck in a specific kin shift for so long they’ve forgotten about their other kins

Type 6: only has otherkins and no fickins so feels slightly isolated from the kin community

Type 7: the one that does kin drama

Type 8: has quite a few kins but basically no complex canon for them, just casually kins and doesn’t understand kin drama

Type 9: the edgy one that calls any double “fakes” and mocks other people’s kins

Its Otherkin Numerology.